Success in business and in life is often marred by difficult obstacles that keep you from reaching your full potential. What you don’t realize is that the biggest challenge lies deep within yourself.
Karen Berg, the author of Your Self-Sabotage Survival Guide, describes self-sabotage as a process of putting yourself down.
Berg explains that most people don’t even realize that they participate in self-sabotage, and you may be lucky if you even come to know it yourself. It’s often difficult to tell the signs, but it usually involves identifying what holds you back.
We can look over a few points that identify these self-sabotaging behaviors:
Knowing YOU are the problem
It’s necessary to accept the facts in knowing that the self is the biggest hurdle to overcome.
Berg states that 85 percent of people who tend to blame others and circumstances are often struggling from self-sabotage. There are also factors that lead these people towards sabotaging their lives and their careers. Complacency, not wanting to stand out, and behaviors like procrastination and impulsiveness all add to someone’s own self-sabotage.
Berg suggests that the best way to address this is to keep a journal for writing down thoughts and finding what is causing the self-sabotaging behavior in the first place.
Additionally, you can also have others help out through SPARC. This concept includes the needed tools for confronting self-sabotaging behavior, namely:
- Strategy
- Purpose
- Analysis
- Rehearsal
- Commitment
Becoming more aware
The next step to take in changing these self-sabotaging behaviors is acknowledging them and taking note of their impact.
There is a need to own up to these behaviors. Enough stalling with excuses on why you can’t get a job, make successful relationships, or just moving forward in general.
If you want to confront your self-sabotaging behavior, use that journal along with a SPARC buddy to identify which relationships are worth keeping, let go of your fear of uncertainty, and compete with yourself to deliver better results.
Adjusting your attitude
Your attitude could be a huge factor in reinventing your life and overcoming negativity. People can take failure hard, but failure is a part of the journey that we all take eventually.
A welcoming attitude towards failure is better than wallowing in it for years to come, especially if you take this opportunity instead of being gloomy.
Berg lists down a few daily quick fixes to be more positive such as:
- Smiling more
- Learning how to laugh
- Doing things for others
- Choosing to see the bright side
Fixing your image
How does appearance reinvent your life from self-sabotaging?
Well, it gives off clear signals to anyone at first sight that you might not be suitable for the job or even unreliable, and that is the worst kind of image you want to project to others.
What you’re wearing, the posture you take anywhere, and the way you present yourself is what affects your appearance in general.
Your physical appearance isn’t just what counts as your image though, as your social media accounts and what you post on them can also tell more about yourself as a person.
After all, you are your own brand, and you have to present yourself in a way that would draw people in.
Karen Berg presents a clear-cut guide on the causes and solutions to self-sabotage for people. The world of business needs people who can overcome themselves and make a big impact in their own lives and the lives of others as well!
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